How to Love Your Hair When You Just Can't
This was my plight during some seasons in my natural hair journey. Although I loved my hair, for the most part, some days were plain HARD! It was through those days that I learned what works best for my hair and having backup plans.
Let's first get down to the reason you're having a difficult time. Below are some common responses and my suggestions.
"I don't know what I'm doing nor how to take care of my hair yet."
That's okay! It's courageous to admit when we don't know something. I would suggest researching your hair type, porosity, and texture. Those are the best places to start when it comes to dealing with our hair.
"I haven't discovered the right products that work for my hair."
I hear this a lot and sorry to break it to you but products are not your problem. It's usually the lack of information about ingredients and how they work with different hair types. For example, since I have low porosity hair, my hair does not react well with proteins. If I understand this about my hair, I am less likely to buy products with proteins as a main ingredient. Moreover, sometimes we can't discover the proper products for our hair because we don't use a product consistently and long enough to see results. I know. That wasn't the answer you were looking for but it's the truth. You can't keep looking for a miracle product when you don't even know what to look for or use it consistently enough.
"My hair won't grow."
Well, actually our hair is always growing. We just have difficulty retaining the length. Usually, this has to do with damaging hair practices we do out of ignorance. Practices such as improper detangling with tools, improper hydration routines, and misuse of heat can definitely hinder your hair's ability to grow.
"I'm uncomfortable with the length of my hair/I don't know how to style it."
This is a real problem I can all the way relate to. Some people may call it vanity but I think it's very important for a woman to feel comfortable rockin' her own hair. Not everyone's head size and head shape look flattering with every type of style. The first suggestion I would give is to get a hair cut that fits your face. Getting a tapered cut was literally one of the best decisions I made in my life and it gave volume to my thin hair while looking flattering on my long face. The next suggestion I can give is to have a backup plan in case you're trying something different with your hair and it doesn't work out. My favorite to-go styles are buns, ponytails, hats, and clip-in extensions. I personally don't recommend weaves and wigs but that option may work for you on days you just can't get it right and don't feel pretty. I'd still say don't get too comfortable and forget to come back to your natural hair, now. ;)
So those are all my tips! What do you think and what are some tips you'd like to share? Please leave them down in the comments below!